Instead of doing my soc. homework I have, yet again, found myself on this site blogging about what is, currently, on my
What exactly is it about silence that we individuals find to be so comforting? Is it allowing our minds to settle down, or maybe it’s to avoid a certain issue or topic that’s too heavy to discuss—-a topic like death. Humans have this innate sixth sense, whether we realise it presently or not, that indicates when others are comfortable or uncomfortable about certain things because it is in our DNA (forever encoded, sorry folks!) Let’s say, for example, a couple is unhappy. Couples are unhappy every day, so what? Research shows, thanks Parker-Pope, individuals who are self-silencing are four times more likely to die from holding their emotions, concerns, and feelings in as opposed to confronting them head-on; all to keep the peace and “let it go”.
Let me ask you this: is keeping silent a good or bad thing? It can be both for sure, depending on the situation. Not everybody should know that you masturbate in the ladies room on your lunch break; on the other hand, shouldn’t your partner know that he is hurting your feelings if he is telling his ‘guys’ about all of your embarrassing stories during their hang out time? People are very carefully crafted creatures, each of us made with the right amount of silence versus verbal communication already inside—it’s just learning how to adjust the balance between the two.
So what do we do when someone has just told you something, considerably, deep and emotional? Do you act “awkward” around this person now that you now know this information and only focus on the mundane; or do you decide to withhold your true feelings and exchange platitudes? Where is that balance now?
There is a certain conspiracy to silence. It can be “unlawful” in some cases, it can be beautiful in others, and it can even be too much. So, I ask again: what is it about silence that draws us in?
Just a few scattered thoughts…. technically I have done my homework! 😉